Step 3 – Lead Not Plead



When there’s a problem in the marriage, we often think it “takes two to Tango”.  After all, a marriage consists of two people, so it’d make sense that you need to work it out together.

Here’s the kicker:  If it’s a small issue, talking and working it out can help.

However, if you’re at the stage where he’s already withdrawn from you and there’s a lack of intimacy, a lack of love and connection in the relationship, “working on the marriage” won’t help.

Marriage counselling won’t work because he’s already checked out emotionally.

He’ll go to counselling because you’ve convinced him that by talking to an expert about your issues it will help, but the truth is, he will only be doing it FOR YOU.

He will NOT be going in order to help himself or your marriage.

Counselling brings up the issues, but in the end, nothing changes and the situation is the same.  Therefore he’s not going to perceive you any differently either, so it’s a waste of time.

Here’s the shift you need to make

Think LEAD not PLEAD.

As you’ve already seen, no amount of talking, convincing, begging or being nice helps.

The only way you can save your marriage is by YOU making the decision to and taking charge of the situation.

He’s already disconnected and checked out in his heart.  So at this stage, you must shift from doing this together to doing what YOU have to do to fix this.

In fact, it’s been proven if one person is willing to make the marriage work, then the chance of restoration is just as high as both people wanting to.

The good news is, as women we were born to connect and nurture, so you’ve got it in you to accomplish this.

Putting it all together

So far, we’ve covered the three vital steps to save your marriage:

Step 1  Pivot

Give yourself a mental and emotional break from the situation.  Take a breather.

Step 2  Anchor

Ground yourself in self-love and self-care.  Don’t let the storm devastate you.

Step 3  Lead Not Plead

No more begging, convincing and arguing.  You can lead the way to restore your marriage even if it seems hopeless.

What to do next

You may be thinking, all this sounds good, but where do I start? 

What are the actions I should be taking right now?

Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered.

I’m going to provide you with a video that covers the marriage revival process in exact detail. You’re going to learn:

  • The 3 marriage murdering mistakes you must avoid that decimate your chances of building a loving, passionate marriage, and how to reverse the mistakes if you do make them.
  • What to do if your spouse tells you it’s over and there’s nothing that you can do to save it.
  • How to have your spouse look into your eyes and say those magical words, “I will always love you, no matter what” by using the “ABCD System”.
  • How to use the 6 Big Bond Builders which will divorce-proof your marriage and make your spouse feel positive emotions toward you.
  • Learn how to get your husband’s buy-in, making him think it was his idea all along and he’ll even apologize for what he’s done.

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Once you’ve taken the time to watch the video, things will make sense, but the more important thing is you implement the steps as explained by the speaker.

Nothing changes unless you take action, so go make it happen!

In your corner

Louise x